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The Power of The Tongue


Words have power. We have the power to kill and the power to bring life just by what we speak.  It is funny how the things we say to ourselves in our mind (I know I am not the only one that speaks to herself) have influence over us. When I first heard that February was a relationship series I couldn’t help but think, I don’t think any of this will apply to me or where I am in life. Boy, how my thoughts were wrong. I was sick the first Sunday, my baby boy was sleeping the following and then I received the last two messages on our relationship series. I cannot tell you how much I enjoyed listening to my spiritual leader (Pastor Aram) speak. God has set him so on fire for His word that every Sunday gets better and better. I love to drink from the well at Activation and every person in it. 

What if I would have written, I knew I didn’t need those sermons so I stayed at home all month of February because what in the world does Pastor Aram have to offer me? Or what if I said that Pastor Aram was incredibly too blunt and I wouldn’t be surprised if the new people don’t return. Basically, I am writing those negative thoughts into existence because currently if you don’t attend my church, you can only go based upon my words. See how much harm written words can do? Now think of me speaking that out… Can you imagine how much stuff you read daily that twists reality? Can you recall how much harm you have done just by believing and receiving words that you shouldn’t have said, written, or even heard?

From social media to the people we surround ourselves with, we are in charge of what we put into our souls. We have eyes that see, ears that hear, and lips that speak the things we let in and we have control of what we let out. As women we tend to be labeled as the “naggers” and men like to claim “dominance” in a relationship. What if we stop nagging and watch them stop dominating. Pastor Aram spoke of honor today and how when we honor any one we love, then we can be blessed, even when that person doesn’t honor us. I guess generations are growing up not watching honor or respect but seeing the nagging and couples arguing over dominance. It is no wonder this nation has a heart issue. It is no wonder we have a lack of proper communication in our world. What we do have is a mighty God and prince of peace to bring us above this. 

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.

-1 Thessalonians 5:11 (ESV)

Sometimes the gift of silence is the best thing we can give to others and ourselves. It is amazing to me that the basics of elementary school hold true through adulthood. If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all. There is a time for everything and tone for anything. Pastor Aram spoke that women have a beauty and a beast and that men have a prince and a punk living within us. Whichever one we speak to is the one we will receive. Let’s build each other up in all relationships. Encourage, love, and honor. Speak life and not death. There is power in the tongue. Instead of using only think before I speak, I like to also pray while I think. If my words are of God, then I know my path will lead to flight and not fight. 

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits. 

-Proverbs 18:21 (ESV)

My prayer is this:


Make us aware of our inner beings. Let us speak power and life to and through each other. Let my ears turn down the noise that makes chaos in my life and let my eyes close to anything bad. Open my lips to speak your words and allow them to silence negative talk. Prepare my heart daily to honor those that I love and that have any authority over me. Lord, direct my ways and let me love the ones that I feel I can’t and give respect even when it is not given to me. Father let me water the fruits of every relationship in my life so that they may grow to serve your kingdom. Thank You Lord for all You have done for me. 

 In Jesus name,